April 21, 2010 Chapter 22
Dear Friends,
Its been awhile and I am going to continue on the Fruits of the Spirit series (still dwelling on peace) but for now i wanted to post on the importance of boundaries. When you are in your early to mid teens you think that your boundaries are so much further away than they actually are and you tend to cross boundaries more frequently and as i’ve become older I’ve realised the importance of those boundaries and that they are much closer than i thought.
For example, the boundary between myself and my leader. I can make friends easy and after much thinking ive realised that i dont need my leaders to be my friends, i need them to be my leaders. Someone who can point out my bad habits without me getting all offended and “youre my friend! Why would you say that?!”. After realising that that is what i need, i now know that that is what the people who i lead need. They dont need another friend, they need someone who loves them and is willing to be the bad guy.
The boundaries in friendship are completely different! there are no two boundaries that are the same, the boundaries between me and my best friend are completely different to the boundaries i have with any other friend.
I love having boundaries in my life, its provides structure and balance and it gives me a mess free (well almost) life because i know where to stop with all the people in my life.
Knowing where to stop is probably one of the most important things to know in your life and you are constantly learning and i am thankful for having people in my life who can tell me when i have crossed a line, Who are your people?
S
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